Why you keep failing (even after trying enough)
Why You Keep Failing?
Most failures incorporate bad luck ignorance and sometimes lack of good sense.
May 17, 2011 at West London University. All set for the final exam of the usability engineering module. I was living far away from the university, so I decided to spend a night before the exam in the library. The next morning 9:30 AM was exam timing. I was excited about my final exam of the semester. I had planned to take the placement year.
The next morning, at 9 o'clock reached the examination hall. I had a few documents and a university laptop. However, I realized it wasn't safe to left belongings in the examination hall. I was rushing back to drop my stuff in one of my schoolmate's room. Unfortunately, on the way back I had a horrific accident in the middle of the road. The ambulance took me to the local hospital (Hillingdon Hospital West London). They did a small surgery around my left eye. I was still optimistic to appeared in the resit exam. Later on, I was so low-spirited and cursed myself for that small decision but Alas!.
After discharge, I went back to the university and submitted my mitigating circumstances form. The university academic department allowed me to take that particular semester again instead of resiting in the exam. At that time, My dream to take a placement was eventually ruled out. I was waiting for my semester to start, meanwhile all my friends were placed in a placement year.
In short, a small mistake hurt my long term prospects. Though, I managed to graduate in honors. This incident didn't cause any trouble in my grades besides a delay. It impaired my self-esteem and prestige.
So many things will go wrong, you can't blame yourself for all failures. You need to adopt a behavior to remain determined and focused. In this approach, you can find better solutions for the worst circumstances.
How To Deal With Imposter Syndrome?
I wish I could give you a secret formula for success, though life doesn't work like this. what I can do is oversimplify the problem you can face. So, you can handle those situations better. In this way, everybody can find his or her own secret formula for success.
The most common cause of failure is Imposter Syndromes. It is psychological behavior where individual doubts about there achievements and have a fear of being exposed as a fake person. This behavior varies from person to person depending on their backgrounds personalities, and circumstances.
The various group of people experiences these imposter feelings at some point in their lives. It directly correlates to the environment & circumstances. It can disturb your mental health feelings and emotions. you felt like a fraud.
I believe if you don't have an absolute understanding of the problem. Then, it's hard to find a reasonable solution.
Now, you have a clear picture of the problem. Let's find possible solutions to handle it.
- Stop proving yourself.
- Don't bend your action.
- Start accepting worst-case scenarios in the beginning.
- Celebrate your small wins & focused on long term goals.
- Stop Comparisons.
- It's Ok with imperfection.
Growth Speed Breakers (Young Student Story)
This is the story of a 6th-grade student. One day, the teacher of the class write down a mathematical equation on the whiteboard and said, Nobody in this universe could be able to solve this problem. Genius mind still working on this but all efforts in vain. In life take some problems for granted. All the students made notes and that day was Friday and the weekend started.
Two days later, One of the students entered the classroom and presented his homework to his teacher. he was shocked to see the solved equation. he had solved an equation that super minds even can't do that, but a student of 6th grade solved it.
Dear Student, I had written this equation last Friday and said don't waste your time on this. The student replied, Sir I didn't know that because at that time, I was outside the class, soon I came back, I saw students were making notes then I assumed that this is the homework for this weekend. I tried two days but last night I managed to solve it.
In our lives, they are three types of speed breakers that usually we face.
- You can't do this.
- No one ever achieved this.
- Even the greatest minds have failed at this.
Don't listen to those voices and just believe that success is a marathon. Whatever resources you take, you need to be at your destination. Repeat this affirmation every day. " I Can Do This ".
Fear Of Failure vs Fear Of Success
Fear Of Failure:
Fear of failure in a person overshadows his/her talent.
Failure itself a blessing if you take it positively but usually don't. Few of those reasons that prevent your success mentioned below:
- What people think about, if you fail.
- People will loose interest in you, if you fail.
- You feel like an isolated person.
- Failing makes you worry about people, whose opinion you value.
Fear Of Success (Tall Poppy Syndrome)
It's been normal to hear about fear of failure, but nowadays fear of success another form of fear phenomena arise.
sometimes, you act small because you worry that people will criticize you. They doubt about your success story. It is called Tall Poppy Syndrome.
Three common symptoms that can relate that you're the victim of this syndrome. Few of those mentioned below:
- Self-consciousness
- Shy to express his ideas
- Create doubts to build your powerful personal brands.
In this syndrome, you have a fear that if I did something extraordinary stuff then people going to say that ' How come he do this?'. He didn't even deserve this. So the victim stop floating ideas with this fear. You need to adopt characteristics to overcome this fear.
- Have faith in your ideas.
- Those who doubt you today make them proud tomorrow.
One thing keeps in mind that people being sarcastic about your ideas because they can't see what you can see.
I hope this help you...
Thank for your time.
SOURCE: Secrets of Success
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